5 Tulaga e Le Tatau Ona Faasaoina Lau Faaipoipoga

If all attempts to improve family relationships fail, ask yourself the question: is it worth saving the marriage? Yes, we are used to thinking that it is worth doing at all costs, but what can it actually lead to? Perhaps – to the fact that suffering and dissatisfaction with family life will only grow. Here are a few times when you should probably seriously consider divorce.

1. Life on the battlefield for “preserving the family for the sake of the child”

O se tulaga e faavae ai le faaipoipoga i le tausiaina o se tamaitiiti soofaatasi, ma o le mafutaga a matua e tuua ai le tele o mea e manaomia. O le tuputupu aʻe o le vevesi, fefaʻatauaʻiga, le leai o ni mea e fiafia i ai i aso uma e faʻafefe ai le siʻosiʻomaga o le aiga ma oʻo atu ai i misa ma taufaaleaga. E mafatia uma taitoalua i le le faamalieina i sootaga faaleaiga ma e le lagonaina le manaomia ma le alofaina.

O le tamaititi lava ia e tupu aʻe i se siosiomaga le lelei o feeseeseaiga faifaipea i le va o e pele. Ona o lenei mea, i le talavou, e ono oʻo i faʻafitauli o le mafaufau ma fausia ai se faʻataʻitaʻiga le saʻo mo le fausiaina o mafutaga i le lumanaʻi.

I ia tulaga, e matua taua lava le fesili ifo ia te oe lava le fesili pe aoga moni le faasaoina o le faaipoipoga, ma sili ona taua, aisea. Afai o le faʻaosofia e naʻo se tamaititi, e foliga mai e le aoga: i le faaiuga, na o ia lava e mafatia. Afai e manaʻo matua uma e fausia ni mafutaga, e taua le alu ese mai le tama-tina faʻataʻitaʻiga aiga i le faʻataʻitaʻiga tane-ava. Pe a uma le vevesi, atonu o le a iai se avanoa mo le fiafia ma lagona fou o le tasi i le isi.

2. Tuufua i se ulugalii

O se tulaga pe a le mafai e le tasi paaga ona faalagolago i le lona lua, aua o le tasi, o le isi, e na o ia "i le olioli ma le tamaoaiga", ae le o le "maʻi ma le mativa". Faatasi ai ma faafitauli ogaoga uma e tatau ona e taulimaina na o oe. I le aluga o taimi, o le paaga e aloese mai faafitauli e amata ona faʻalavelaveina le olaga o le toʻalua lona lua e sili atu, e pei o le tofotofoina o ia mo le malosi. O le lagona faʻaalia o le vaivai e mafua ai le osofaʻiga ma le manaʻo e faʻaalia le maualuga o le tagata, ma o lenei mea e tatau ai ona toilalo le pele.

Pe aoga le tumau ai i lenei mafutaga? I totonu o se aiga, e taua le faʻaputuina o punaoa e ausia ai sini masani, ae le o le faʻaogaina o le tasi ma le isi, laʻa ese pe a tupu se mea faʻaletonu.

3. O le lagona o le alu ese o le a atili ai ona leaga.

It happens that a partner – usually a woman – is driven by the fear that leaving will only aggravate the situation, provoke aggression and persecution. And this fear is so great that the victim remains in a relationship with the rapist, trying to fulfill all the requirements so as not to anger the quick-tempered spouse.

O le alu ese mai se tulaga o sauaga i totonu o aiga e mana'omia, ae e matua taua tele le tausia lelei o lou lava saogalemu i le taimi muamua.

4. La'u kesi

A situation where one partner makes the other doubt their own mental health. Gradually, the pressure builds up, and the victim begins to feel that the truth is “not in itself”, and the aggressor passes off his inadequate actions as the norm. For example, a spouse may find out that her husband has a different family – with children, joint plans and dreams. Not only is the situation itself unpleasant, but also the partner can assure his wife that what is happening is absolutely normal.

5. Tausalaina ma le lagona e te nofo aitalafu pea i lau paaga

O le olaga e tu'uina atu ai le tele o tofotofoga i aiga. O nisi paaga e faʻatoʻilaloina soʻo se faʻafitauli ma faigata, tuputupu aʻe ma faʻamalosia. Ae e tupu foʻi le avea o se tulaga mataʻutia e avea ma auala o togafiti: “Ana le seanoa oe, semanu ou te … tuua (a) e faigaluega i Ausetalia, maua se siitaga i le galuega, tuu atu (a) fanau i se aoaoga masani. ” Ua faia se tagata e mafaufau o le paaga ona o ia na lafoaia se mea taua ma o lea ua ia nofo aitalafu.

Enduring guilt undermines self-esteem, and life gradually becomes completely unbearable. As in previous cases, divorce in such a situation becomes the only way out, but it is better to prepare your way of retreat in advance, without waiting for the moment when the cup of patience overflows and you have to go “nowhere”.