Mataupu
Many of us are consumed by everyday life and daily routine — cooking, parent meetings, going to the clinic, work … How to understand which business is urgent and which is not? How important is delegation of authority and requests for assistance? Clinical psychologist Elena Tukhareli helps to understand.
The world has long stepped forward both in terms of living conditions and in terms of attitudes towards everyday life. It would not be easy to explain to our grandmothers that we do not have time for anything, because they had to manage everything — to work, run a household, feed their families. But in the modern world, time, flexibility and a variety of skills are more valued than the ability to wash «in the hole.» After all, washing and washing dishes today can be “delegated” to household appliances (and then someone has to load dirty laundry into the drum and wipe the dishes after washing), but more important tasks for life cannot.
Ina ia aua neʻi avea oe ma tagata afaina i "faʻalavelave", e aoga le aʻoaʻoina e vavae ese galuega e ala i le faʻamuamua o le faʻatinoga (pe a tatou talanoa e uiga i tiute faʻapolofesa) ma le moni o le manaʻo i le taimi nei (pe a fai, mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga, o loʻo tatou mafaufau i ai. e uiga i le faʻaaluina o le aso).
To distribute tasks, it is convenient to use the planning technique — the Eisenhower matrix. It’s pretty easy to create. We write a list of tasks and mark next to each one: is it important or not? Urgent or not? And draw a table like this:
Quadrant A — important and urgent matters
O galuega nei, afai e le fa'ataunu'uina, e lamatia ai au sini, ma mataupu e feso'ota'i ma le soifua maloloina. Mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga, tusi faʻanatinati, galuega faʻatino e manaʻomia le tuʻuina atu vave, tiga matuitui poʻo le faʻaleagaina.
Faatasi ai ma fuafuaga lelei, o lenei quadrant e tumau pea le gaogao ona e te le faʻaputuina galuega e tatau ona foia vave. E le fa'afefe pe a fa'aalia nisi o manatu iinei, e taua le itiiti o na mea. A leai, e tatau ona e toe iloilo le lisi o taimi e gata ai ma mataupu.
Quadrant B — important but not urgent
E masani lava o la tatou gaioiga autu lea: mataupu taua e leai ni taimi e gata ai, o lona uiga e mafai ona tatou galulue ia i latou i se tulaga toʻafilemu. O sini ia e mana'omia ai fuafuaga ma e fa'atatau i le atina'eina o fuafuaga. Poʻo mea e fesoʻotaʻi ma le atinaʻeina o le tagata lava ia ma le tausia o sootaga faʻaagafesootai, mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga: faʻalogo i se lauga pe alu i le faletaalo, feiloai i uo, valaʻau i aiga.
E tatau ona e faʻaeteete, aua afai e te tolopoina le faʻamaeʻaina o galuega mai lenei faʻailoga, ona mafai lea ona latou "siitia" i le A quadrant.
Quadrant C — urgent but not important
O loʻo matou talanoa e uiga i faʻalavelave: o le faʻamaeʻaina o galuega a lenei quadrant e le fesoasoani e ausia le sini, ae i se isi itu, e taofia ai oe mai le taulai atu i le mea e sili ona taua, faʻaitiitia le lelei ma faʻavaivaia oe. O le tele o taimi, o galuega masani ia, e ui i lea, e "ai" ma le le alofa o tatou taimi taua.
O le a fesoasoani le tuʻuina atu ia i matou e faʻatautaia i latou: mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga, a o e faʻamaeʻaina se lipoti i le fale, e mafai ona e fai atu i lau paga e savali le taifau pe totogi pili. O le mea autu e le o le faʻafememeaʻi i latou ma galuega e tatau ona i ai i le A quadrant: ia mautinoa e le taua tele galuega.
Quadrant D — non-urgent and unimportant things
This is an extremely interesting quadrant: things gather here that are not useful, but we are terribly fond of. This can be, for example, studying various sites and reading messages in instant messengers — what we usually call «you need to rest sometimes.» Often these activities take time away from other tasks.
E le o lona uiga e tatau ona e lafoai atoa faafiafiaga, ae e tatau ona e tausia le paleni o mataupu i vaega taitasi. Afai e iai sau faʻamatalaga taua i ni nai aso, ona faʻaalu lea o le taimi i mea mai le D quadrant, mulimuli ane e te ono feagai ma se faanatinati i le A quadrant.
O le faʻataʻitaʻiga o le matrix e faʻaalia ai e taua mo i tatou taʻitoʻatasi le mafai ona tuʻuina atu ma mafai ona ole atu mo se fesoasoani. E lē o taimi uma e faavaivaia ai i tatou i le vaaiga a isi. Ae, o lenei faiga e fautua mai ai e mafai ona tatou iloiloina lelei o tatou gafatia ma faʻasoa taimi ma punaoa.
Ae faapefea le faatuai?
Sometimes it happens like this: things are up to the throat, but you don’t want to take on anything, so you don’t do anything at all. Scrolling through social media feeds or sticking to the series. All this is very similar to procrastination — the tendency to constantly put off even important and urgent things.
O le faatuutuu e le tutusa ma le paie, ae le o le malolo. Pe a paie se tagata, na te le oo i ni lagona le lelei ma e le feagai ma taunuuga le lelei. Pe a malolo, e toe faʻatumu ai le malosi faʻaagaga ma e molia i lagona lelei. Ma i se tulaga o le faatuai, tatou te faamaimauina le malosi i gaoioiga le aoga ma tolopo mea taua seia oo i le taimi mulimuli. O le iʻuga, tatou te le faia mea uma pe faia mea tatou te manaʻomia, ae tatou te faia le lelei, ma faʻaitiitia ai lo tatou faʻatauaina o le tagata lava ia, e oʻo atu ai i lagona o le tausalaina, atuatuvalega, ma le leiloa o le gaosiga.
O tagata popole ma le atoatoa e sili atu ona matele i le faatuutuu, o e o le a sili atu e fai se galuega atoa pe o le a tolopoina i taimi uma pe afai e le mafai ona atoatoa a latou fuafuaga mo la latou ata o le lalolagi. I tulaga fa'apenei, fuafua lelei mea, su'e se tagata fa'atuatuaina e va'aia i latou, ma galue ma fa'amanuiaga lona lua e mafai ona fesoasoani. O lona uiga, e tatau ona e fesili ifo ia te oe lava le fesili: o le a le mea e mafua ai le tuai o mataupu? O le a se mea ou te maua mai ai?
Afai e faigata ona e fuafuaina ma faʻamaeʻaina galuega ma masalomia o le faʻatuai e mafua ai foi ona tuʻuaʻia, taumafai e galue ma se tagata poto faapitoa i le faʻatauaina o le tagata lava ia ma le faʻalagolago ia te oe lava, i le fefe i le le atoatoa ma faia ni mea sese. O le a sili atu ona faigofie mo oe le faʻatulagaina o lou olaga pe a uma lena.