“Psyhanul and quit”: will we be happier from this?

“Drop everything and go nowhere” is a common fantasy of employees who are tired of suffering from overtime or a toxic team. In addition, the idea is actively promoted in popular culture that only by “slamming the door” can one become free – and therefore happy. But is it really worth giving in to the impulse?

Mulimuli ane i le Aso Faraile! O e ave taavale i le galuega i se lagona leaga, ona e le mafai lea ona e faatali mo le afiafi? Fefinauai ma au uo ma le mafaufau e tusi se tusi faamavae faafesili i le aso?

"Faʻanoanoa, ita, ita - o nei lagona uma e taʻu mai ia i tatou o nisi o tatou manaʻoga taua e le o ausia, e ui atonu tatou te le iloa," o le faʻamatalaga lea a le fomaʻi mafaufau ma le faiaoga o Cecily Horshman-Bratwaite.

I lenei tulaga, o le manatu o le tuʻu "leai se mea" atonu e foliga mai e faʻaosoosoina, ae o na miti e masani lava ona faigata ai ona iloa le mea moni. O le mea lea, e fautuaina e le au atamamai e vaʻavaʻai i le tulaga ma se mafaufau matala ma faʻatonuina lou ita amiotonu i se itu lelei.

1. Faailoa le puna o lagona le lelei

Ae e te leʻi mulimuli i le taʻitaʻiga o sea mamana ma, ia faʻamaoni, o nisi taimi o lagona faʻaleagaina e pei o le ita, e aoga le mafaufau: o le a le mafuaʻaga? Mo le toatele, o lenei laasaga e le faigofie: na aoaoina i tatou mai le laiti o le ita, o le ita o ni lagona "le taliaina", o lona uiga afai tatou te oo i ai, o le faafitauli o loʻo i totonu ia i tatou, ae le o le tulaga.

Ae ui i lea, e le tatau ona e taofiofia lagona, ua mautinoa e Horshman-Bratwaite: "A uma mea uma, o lou ita atonu e iai ni mafuaaga lelei: e te maualalo le totogi pe a faʻatusatusa i au paaga pe faʻamalosia e nofo i le ofisa tuai ma e le maua se taimi malolo mo galuega."

To understand this properly, the expert advises keeping a journal of thoughts and emotions related to work – perhaps an analysis of what was written will tell you some solution.

2. Talanoa i se tasi e mafai ona fesoasoani ia te oe e vaai i le tulaga mai fafo.

Talu ai ona o le ita e faanenefu ai o tatou mafaufau ma taofia ai i tatou mai le mafaufau manino, e aoga le talanoa i se tasi i fafo atu o lau galuega—e sili o se faiaoga faapolofesa po o se foma'i mafaufau.

Atonu e foliga mai ose siosiomaga galuega oona e le mafai ona suia. Ae atonu foi e foliga mai o oe lava e le o faʻaalia manino lou tulaga pe puipuia tuaoi.

Ua faamanatu atu ia te oe e le fomai o le mafaufau ma le faiaoga o galuega Lisa Orbe-Austin e te le tau aveina mea uma e taʻu atu e se fomaʻi ia te oe e uiga i le faatuatua, ae e mafai ma e manaʻomia foi ona e fesili atu ia te ia mo se fautuaga i le mea e fai i le isi mea, o le a le laasaga e fai ina ia le e afaina ai lau galuega.

“E taua le fa’amanatu ia te oe lava e tusa lava pe le o lelei lou olaga faigaluega i le taimi nei, e le tatau ona fa’apea e fa’avavau. O le mea autu o le fuafuaina o lou lumanaʻi, mafaufau lelei ma mafaufau i avanoa eseese, ”o le tala lea a Orbe-Austin.

3. Faia Feso'ota'iga Lelei, Aua le So'ona Fa'aaoga Fa'asea

Afai e te naunau e faʻaauau, networking, fausiaina o se fesoʻotaʻiga o fesoʻotaʻiga faʻaagafesootai o se laasaga e matua manaʻomia.

Ae a feiloai ma au uo, paaga, ma tagata e ana galuega, aua le faatagaina lou tulaga o iai nei e fuafua pe o le a foliga o oe ma lau talafaasolopito o galuega i la latou vaai.

O lau galuega o le faʻaalia o oe lava mai le pito sili ona lelei, ma o se tagata faigaluega e faitio i taimi uma e uiga i le iʻuga, pule ma pisinisi e ono le fiafia i se tasi.

4. Fai se malologa ma tausi lou soifua maloloina

If you have the opportunity, take a vacation and take care of your health – both physical and mental. When dealing with anger becomes increasingly difficult, Lisa Orbe-Austin advises working through your feelings with a specialist – a psychologist or psychotherapist.

Siaki: atonu o ni nai sauniga ma se tagata poto faapitoa e aofia ai foi i lau inisiua. “O le faafitauli, e tusa lava pe e te tuu i le taimi nei, e lē mafai lava ona mou atu le ita ma le ita,” o le faamatalaga lea a le fomaʻi o le mafaufau.

"E taua tele mo oe le faʻatulagaina o lou lava mafaufau ina ia mafai ai ona e agai i luma. Ma e sili atu le faia a o iai sau tupe maua faifaipea i le tulaga o lau galuega o iai nei.”

5. Fuafua mamao—pe saunia mo taunuuga o le fiu vave

Movies and TV series teach us that a sudden layoff can be a real liberation, but few people talk about the possible long-term consequences – including career and reputational ones.

However, if you still understand that there is no more strength to endure, get ready, at a minimum, for the fact that colleagues can start gossip behind your back – they don’t know what was behind your decision, which means they will condemn you for “unprofessionalism “(“Leave the company at this hour! And what will happen to the customers?!”).

Ae, i se tasi auala poʻo se isi, o le mea mautinoa e le tatau ona faia o le faʻatali mo le tulaga e foia ia lava. Ioe, atonu o le a sau se pule talafeagai fou i lau 'au, pe o le a siitia oe i se isi matagaluega. Ae o le fa'alagolago na'o le mea lea ae leai se mea e fai o se faiga fa'atauva'a.

Ia sili atu le faʻamalosi: fuafua isi laasaga, fausia se fesoʻotaʻiga o tagata masani masani, faʻafouina lau resume ma vaʻai avanoa. Taumafai e fai mea uma e faalagolago ia te oe.

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