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Stay-at-home mom: why do we feel isolated?
Becoming a mother is a big upheaval in a woman’s life! The arrival of a little bit in the home mobilizes all his attention and all his time. The habits of life, especially when one had a busy professional life, as well as the rhythm of the day are modified. Daily life now revolves around the needs of the newborn: breastfeeding or bottle feeding, changing diapers, bathing, housework … On the other hand, fatigue and hormones mingle, you may feel a great depression. Rest assured, many moms have a little baby blues. Be aware that in most cases this discomfort does not set in over time. With rest, we regain strength and morale. All this is only temporary!
What can you do to feel less alone when you are a stay-at-home mom?
As soon as you return home from motherhood, it is important to keep in touch with your loved ones. Even if you feel very tired and suffer the consequences of your delivery, save yourself some little moments to make a phone call, introduce your little one to your friends, start a little shared logbook … Communication will help you feel less alone and more fulfilled with your baby. Stroller outings and walks in the park can be done in groups! Maybe, in your entourage, other mothers just want to accompany you? If your children are in school, do not hesitate to get involved in school activities. How? ‘Or’ What ? By becoming a parent-companion for school trips, a class representative or a member of the school association. It’s a great way to bond socially with people who are in your situation. Alongside the school, there are many other mothers associations to dialogue and create friendships.
The couple helps to feel less alone
Before being a mother, you are a woman and a lover, too. Your partner, even if he or she spends his or her days at work, can help you break the isolation. It is therefore important to keep the dialogue going by sharing photos or making daily phone calls, joint activities or inviting other couples over to the house for dinner. How about bringing in a babysitter or grandparents to babysit your tribe? The opportunity for a small outing for two ideal for tightening the bonds and putting balm in the heart.
Finding time for yourself as a stay-at-home mom
Maintaining your tastes and knowledge avoids devaluing yourself, gradually withdrawing from social life under the pretext that “we have nothing interesting to tell”. The moment of the nap can thus be used to read a good book, start digital training or get in touch with other mothers via social networks. You can also entrust your children for an hour to a neighbor or friend, and go to a yoga class or go for a walk. Time just for yourself, sometimes just to meditate or dream, which allows you to take a step back and then find your children with pleasure … You deserve it! Because being a stay-at-home mom is a full-time job with all the mental load that comes with it.
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If you can’t stand being inactive, you can also engage in volunteer activities which will only take you a few hours a week. It is, for example, possible to ensure permanence in a library in your district, to entertain the sick and the elderly in medical establishments with the association of Blouses Roses or to distribute meals to the most disadvantaged with the Restos du Cœur. There are many associations in need of volunteers who are waiting for you!