O le masani o le avea ma "iole efuefu", poʻo le Faʻafefea ona fesoasoani lavalava e ausia ai le manuia

Mai lea tausaga ma lea tausaga, tatou te ofuina tutusa lavalava, alu i galuega tatou te le fiafia i ai, e le mafai ona teteʻa ma le tagata tatou te lagona le le fiafia, ma onosaia siosiomaga oona. Aisea e taufaafefe ai le suia o se mea?

We tend to think in terms of negative experiences. Often we say this: “Yes, this is bad, but it could be even worse.” Or we compare ourselves not with the more successful, but with those who did not succeed: «Vasya tried to open a business and lost everything.»

Ae afai e te vaʻavaʻai solo, e mafai ona e vaʻaia, mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga, le tele o tagata fai pisinisi ua manuia. Aisea? Ioe, aua na latou teu faʻafaigaluegaina, ma e le gata i le tele o tupe, ae faʻapea foi le taimi, malosi, agaga. Na latou amataina le pisinisi e le o se nonogatupe tele, ae o le suʻeina o se niche sa latou peti ai. E fa'atatau uma i le auala sa'o, ae mana'omia se taumafaiga. E sili atu ona faigofie le faʻamafanafanaina o oe lava e leʻi manuia se tasi. “Matou te le o ola lelei, ae e le o maua e se tasi lena mea."

Fanau i le USSR

The attitude of “standing out and sticking out is dangerous for life” is a legacy of that time. For too many years we have been taught to “walk along the line”, to look the same, to say the same thing. Freethinking was punished. The generation that witnessed this is still alive, remembers well and reproduces in the present. Fear is written in the DNA. Parents unconsciously instill this in their children: «better a titmouse in the hand than a crane in the sky», «keep your head down, be like everyone else.» And all this for security reasons. By standing out, you can draw too much attention to yourself, and this is dangerous.

O la tatou masani o le le tu i fafo, o se "iole efuefu" e sau mai le tamaitiiti, e masani lava e le o matua lelei. O la matou tupulaga na laei i maketi, matou te ofuina mo uso ma tuafafine, toetoe lava a leai ni a matou lava mea. Ma sa avea ma ala o le olaga.

Ma e tusa lava pe amata ona matou faia ni tupe lelei, na foliga mai e faigata ona ausia se tulaga fou: suia le sitaili, faʻatau mea e manaʻomia. Ua alaga mai se leo i totonu, “Oi, e le mo aʻu lenei mea!” Ma e mafai ona malamalama i lenei mea: mo le luasefulu tausaga na latou ola ai faʻapenei ... E faʻafefea nei ona laa i se lalolagi fou ma faʻatagaina oe lava i mea e te manaʻo ai?

Dressing expensive — losing touch with the family?

E toʻatele ua maofa i le uiga: “I loʻu olaga atoa sa ou ofu i le maketi, ofu mo isi. Ua matua taliaina lava i tatou. O le faʻataga atili o le motusia lea o le sootaga ma le aiga." E foliga mai o le taimi nei o le a tatou o ese mai le aiga, lea e ofuina e tagata uma ofu ato ma taugofie.

Ae, e ala i le faʻatagaina oe e faʻatau mea sili atu taugata ma maualuga ma oʻo atu ai i se tulaga fou, o le a mafai ona "toso i luga" le aiga atoa iina, o lona uiga o le a le motusia le fesoʻotaʻiga. Ae e tatau ona e amata ia oe lava.

E mafai faapefea e lavalava ona suia lou olaga?

There is a beautiful expression: «Pretend until you actually do it.» In creating a new image, this approach can and should be applied.

Afai e manaʻo se fafine e avea ma se tamaʻitaʻi pisinisi manuia, ae o loʻo i ai pea i le tulaga o le miti ma le filifilia o se manatu pisinisi, ina ia lagona atili ai le toʻa, e aoga le alu i pisinisi pisinisi ma fonotaga faʻalilolilo, laei e pei o se tagata faʻatau pisinisi ma laiti. pule pisinisi i lona lava ata. Vaʻai faalemafaufau i se ata o le lumanaʻi manaʻomia i le tele o auiliiliga e mafai ma amata agai i ai, amata laiti, mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga, ma lavalava.

E le gata i lea, afai tatou te faʻatau mea tatou te fiafia i ai, faʻaumatia le manatu o se ato poʻo se seevae e le mafai ona taugata tele (pe a uma, e leai se tasi o le aiga matua na mauaina le tele), i le aluga o taimi, o le a "puʻe" tupe maua.

Feiloai i ofu

Is it really possible to become more successful if you work on your appearance and style? I will give an example from practice. I had a student. I analyzed her Instagram account (an extremist organization banned in Russia) and gave feedback. She was involved in organizing the provision of medical services in Germany. Treatment is expensive — premium segment. This: description of procedures, recommendations — and her personal blog is dedicated. My client used her photographs as illustrations. She herself is a beautiful woman, but the photographs were of poor quality, and the image itself left much to be desired: mostly short flowered dresses.

Ioe, i aso nei ua uma ona tatou malamalama o le feiloai i lavalava e le saʻo atoatoa. E tatau ona e vaʻavaʻai i le tagata lava ia, i lona tulaga o le poto ma le poto masani. Ae, po o le a lava le mea e fai mai ai se tasi, tatou te tali atu i le tele o mea otometi, le iloa. Ma a matou vaʻai i se teine ​​i se ofu fuga o loʻo ofoina atu auaunaga faʻafomaʻi i Europa mo le tele o tupe, matou te maua se faʻalavelave. Ae o le vaʻavaʻai atu i se fafine i se suti, ma le lelei o le styling, o loʻo talanoa e uiga i avanoa e foia ai faʻafitauli o le soifua maloloina, tatou te amata faʻatuatuaina o ia.

So I advised the client to switch to business suits in light colors (association with medical services) — and it worked. Thinking through your image, it is important to build a chain of associations with what you do, what services you offer. Building your image and personal brand is an investment that will definitely pay off.