As we get older, we increasingly notice that our habits and social circles are changing. If earlier we easily made new acquaintances and were ready to walk until the morning, now, having become more closed, we need solitude. This is normal — with age, many become introverts. Check if you have changed with our checklist.
According to psychologists, introversion or extroversion are innate qualities. But there are very few «pure» types in real life. We can be considered introverts and draw resources from within ourselves, but at the same time be friendly and able to establish contacts with others. And we can be born extroverts, but due to various circumstances become closed.
What many researchers agree on is that many of us become more extroverted at first as we get older. And there are reasons for that. Firstly, as we grow older, we mature internally — we accumulate life experience, we get to know ourselves and others better. We gain some self-sufficiency. We learn life lessons — sometimes painful ones. We learn to rely on ourselves.
Lona lua, o amioga fa'aalia i le talavou e mafua mai i lo tatou natura. I lenei tausaga, o le galuega a se sui o tagata soifua o se meaola olaola o le sailia lea o se paaga ma fanauina se fanau. Ma mo sina taimi matou te tumau pea le avanoa i fesoʻotaʻiga ma masani.
Ae, i le aluga o tausaga, e tusa lava po o le a le tuputupu aʻe o le olaga patino, o le natura "faʻatonu" lo tatou malosi mai le liʻo fafo i totonu, i le aiga. E tusa lava pe na o lo tatou aiga na o i tatou lava ma, fai mai, o se pusi.
Ina ia maua le fiafia (e le o se feusuaiga, ae e uiga i le siʻitia o le malosi taua) ma le fiafia, tatou te le toe manaʻomia le i ai i se konaseti pisapisao pe i se pati i le tele o tagata. Matou te aʻoaʻoina le faʻatonuga a le tagata lava ia ma malamalama i le taua o taimi pe a tuʻuina i matou ia matou lava masini. Ma o mea faaitaita e pei o musika leotele, leo o leo, ta o moli ma le tele o tagata e vave ona tatou vaivai.
Signs of «turning» into an introvert
1. O le fale e te tuʻuina ai mea i le faʻatonuga ma le mafanafana ua avea ma ou "nofoaga o le mana". O iinei e te toe faʻafoʻisia ai le tuʻuina atu o le malosi taua, ma e te le fiu naʻo oe. Afai e te nofo ma se aiga, e te manaʻomia se taimi ma avanoa mo le le faalauaiteleina ina ia mafai ai ona fesoʻotaʻi atili.
2. O lo'o e faigaluega ma sau sau uo e tesi atu ia te oe, ofo mai e feiloa'i ma talatalanoa. E foliga mai, o le ae toe faatulaga le fonotaga ma alu i le aiga i le afiafi. Ioe, e te alofa i lau uo teine, ae e tatau ona e faʻalogo e feiloai ma talanoa ma ia. O le mea lea, e te manaʻo e fai ni fuafuaga muamua.
3. Ae e te le manaʻomia foʻi i taimi uma ni faʻapotopotoga ua uma ona fuafuaina. O lea la, e mafai ona e teena le ofo a au uo mo se inu i le afiafi o le Aso Faraile. E iai lau 'au matagofie, ae i le vaiaso faigaluega e te fiu e talanoa ma au uo, o lea e te filifilia ai le kamupani a uo, aiga poʻo se afiafi filemu na o oe.
4. O le fa'aalia o le lumana'i, i se pati po'o se fa'afiafiaga, e fa'atupuina atili ai lou popole nai lo le fa'atalitali fiafia. E te iloa o le a vave ona e fiu i leo ma le emo o foliga ma o le a e suʻe se alofaga e te alu ese ai mai iina e aunoa ma le faatiga i se tasi.
5. For the same reason, the arrival of guests is not the easiest event for you. And over the years, an internal “filter” is triggered — those people you want to see on your territory are becoming less and less.
6. A serious conversation with a friend is much more important for you than superficial chatter about anything. The older you are, the less interesting it is to communicate “in passing” — much more valuable than minutes spent in deep conversation with significant people.
7. O le alu i tafaoga, e te manaʻo e te alu ma se paaga pe naʻo oe, nai lo se kamupani pisa malie, pei o le taimi muamua.
8. E itiiti lava lou kiina o le TV, leitio, po o le mea fai musika e manaomia ai le filemu. Ua e matua'i vaivai lava i nei fa'aaliga uma, tala fou ma a latou fa'anoanoaga leaga ma polokalame fa'aleaga.
9. Ua atili ai ona faigata ia te oe ona fesootai ma tagata ua soona lagona, aemaise lava pe a latou le onosai “i le taimi nei” e faaaofia ai oe i se talanoaga faigata. Ma e vavao e le Atua, pe a amata ona latou taufaalili ia te oe i se auala faauo i fesili: "Ia, aisea ua e vela ai?"
10. O le taufaaleaga ma le manaʻoga e faʻamalieina le isi itupa e sili atu ona maualalo nai lo le taimi muamua. E le o lona uiga o faʻamalo ma le gauai atu e le fiafia mo oe. Pau lava le mea e sili atu lou taulai atu ia te oe lava nai lo le auala e iloa ai oe e isi.
11. O loo iai pea au uō, ae e lē mafai ona e faasoa atu faamatalaga o lau faiā ma lē e pele iā te oe po o tauaiga iā i latou. Ma e le faapea ona e te le talitonuina lou si'osi'omaga – e te le lagona lava le mana'omia e faitio pe, i se isi itu, gugutu ma maua fautuaga. Ina ia faia lenei mea, atonu e iai sau psychotherapist.
12. A o‘o i se mea fou, ‘e te lē toe fesili muamua atu i ē ui ane mo se fa‘atonuga, pei o le taimi muamua. Ma o le mafuaʻaga e le gata e te faʻaogaina se telefoni faʻatasi ma se tautai. Fa'ato'a e masani i le fa'alagolago ia te oe lava, ma o le fa'afeso'ota'i ma tagata 'ese e mana'omia ai le malosi ua e a'oa'oina e fa'aola.
13. In recent years, the circle of your communication has changed markedly. Toxic, envious, aggressive people and those who are called «energy vampires» are gradually disappearing from it. Talking to them can hurt you, and as you get older, you value your own time and mental strength to waste on those who devastate you.
14. Perhaps there are fewer people around you — with many who hung out with you 10, 15 years ago, you have long lost touch. But if life gives you interesting, congenial people, you appreciate such an acquaintance. And the ability to hear yourself helps you determine whether this person is “your” and whether you are ready to gradually make friends with him.