9 fuaitau e le mafai e tagata ona tutu

Afai ua uma ona e fai atu faatasi, fai se taumafaiga ma aua le toe fai. Aua ua a'oa'oina e a matou foma'i aiga mai a latou tagata fa'atau, o upu ia e sili ona mata'utia e te fa'alogoina mai i lau paga.

1. «Okay, I’d better do it myself»

Fautuaga Fautuaga: Afai na e fai atu i se tamaloa e fai se paipa—pe na ona fai atu foi ia te ia e valaau se tasi e toe faaleleia le paipa—ia tuu atu e fai e ia lava.

“Even if your partner forgot to do this a few times, chances are they genuinely want to help you,” says Ann Crowley, a family psychologist in Austin. — Let him save face, do not say: «Okay, I’d better do it myself.» This is a terrible phrase. For a man, it means that you do not think that he is capable of doing anything at all, and you do not need him.

2. «I could have guessed…»

O nei upu faatiga o le a le avea ma se uunaiga mo ia e gaoioi ai, aua o loo e manaomia le mea e toetoe lava a le mafai.

"O le a faasaoina e tamaitai i latou lava le tele o taimi ma neura pe afai latou te onosaia le mea moni e leaga tane i le faitau i le va o laina ae le faia ni manatu," o le tala lea a Ryan Howes, o le Pasadena Clinical psychologist. “E le'i faia i latou mo lenei mea, ma e le mafai ona e toe aoaoina i latou. Tau lava o le taʻu saʻo atu ia te ia le mea e te manaʻo ai mai ia te ia.

3. «We need to talk»

E leai se isi upu e mafai ona fa'atupuina le mata'u tele i le loto o se tagata e pei o lenei fuaitau le afaina, i le tepa muamua. O se fa'ailoga lea o se talanoaga ogaoga, faitioga ma faitioga.

Do you know what he will do? «He’ll think he’s a loser and try to run away,» says Marcia Berger, a family therapist. “But this is exactly the opposite of what you wanted to sit down together and talk.”

4. «Be a man!»

Mo lou lava lelei ma lona lava lelei, aua le faaaogaina na upu. O se osofa'iga mataga lea i lona faasinomaga, e fesiligia ai lona tulaga tane ma le auai i se ituaiga tele o tagata maina, leoleo, faufale ma fatuga.

5. “Clean up after yourself. I’m not your mommy!»

Get creative and find a more subtle way to convince him to put things in their place or in the bin. Saying that he still needs his mother, you, without knowing it, can get to the point — to remind him how good he was with her.

6. «Are you leaving with your friends again?»

Aua e te vaai i ai o se taufaamatau i lau faaipoipoga, o le tala lea a Howes. O le mea moni, o nisi taimi o le alu i le soka ma tama ua na o se faʻaupuga mo se mea inu lelei, ae mo le tele o tamaloloa, o le feiloai i uo o se avanoa e talatalanoa ai i luga o se tulaga tutusa, fefaʻasoaaʻi manatu ma a latou faʻailoga tama o le mana ma le tulaga.

E iai fo'i ponesi fa'apenei mo oe. O nisi taimi, pe a uma ona faʻalogo i tala uma a latou uo, e oʻo mai lau paaga i le faaiuga o ia o se tane lelei. Ma o ia fesootaiga tama mauoa na te misia ai lau kamupani.

8. «Do you think she’s cute?»

You’re putting him in a situation where you can’t give the right answer. Men’s nature is such that they always mark the most attractive girl. Perhaps, in this case, he already noted it to himself. And now he has to decide how to combine two equally true statements — that the girl is pretty and that he loves you, not her.

9. «Oh, what a tummy!»

E tatau ona e faʻaeteete e matauina suiga i ona foliga vaaia, talu ai e leai se masani o tamaloloa o le ulagia o i latou lava, e le pei o i tatou. E le o mea uma e manaʻomia ona faʻaalia, o nisi taimi e faigofie ai ona alu saʻo i le gaioiga. Ma o le mea tonu lava lea. O le a sili atu le aoga pe afai e te i ai i le paka faʻatasi i se tasi o nai aso e sosoo ai ma faʻaalu ni nai itula iina, ma i faaiuga o vaiaso e te maua ai uila ma alu e savali.