E fa'afefea ona tausia uo teine ​​pe a e i ai i tulaga eseese o le olaga

O le olaga matua e tumu i suiga: feʻaveaʻi, suʻesuʻe, galuega, faʻaipoipoga, fai fanau. E itiiti lava lo tatou taimi mo uo, o isi mafutaga e tosina mai ai manatu ia i tatou lava. Ma e foliga mai i le taimi nei ua itiiti se mea e tutusa ai ma uo a o laiti.

E le faigofie ona tumau i le mafutaga e tasi pe a eseese tulaga o lou olaga, ae e le faapea ua uma le faigauo tuai. Afai o oe ma au uo o loʻo "i luga o paneta eseese", faʻalogo i fautuaga nei.

1. Manatua pe aisea na e vavalalata ai

O manatuaga o le auala na fanau mai ai faigauo o le auala sili lea e faaumiumi ai. Talanoa e uiga i mea na e oo i ai, manatua na o tausuaga e te malamalama ai. Afai e te mamao ese nei ma e le mafai ona vaʻaia e le tasi le isi e pei o le taimi muamua, o le a faʻalatalata atili ai oe. Faaalu se taimi e toe tomanatu ai ma talie i tala tuai.

2. Fausia ni manatuaga fou

E manaia le manatuaina o mea ua tuanai, ae o le a mamae le faigauo e aunoa ma ni mea fou e tutupu ma ni lagona. Taumafai e fai fa'atasi se mea tou te le'i faia muamua. Ia maua se taimi fiafia ma i le taimi lava e tasi e iloa ai mea fou i le olaga o se uo. O le taimi nei e le oo mai le tuufua ma le faigofie e pei o le talavou, o lea ia faatulaga fonotaga ina ia le soona fai ma isi pisinisi ma matafaioi.

Joint activities help strengthen friendships, but this is not enough. It is important to arrange heart-to-heart conversations — they bring people together. Social networks help to keep in touch, but we rarely communicate live. And no online correspondence will replace a real heart-to-heart conversation.

It doesn’t matter if you meet in person or on the phone, talk about what’s going on in your life, what worries you. Be open and sincere. Talk about your problems, share successes and hopes for the future. Be real — this will help you and your friend understand each other better.

3. Iloa tapula'a

O le leai o se taimi mo fesootaiga e le na o le pau lea o le faafitauli. O faauoga e tele faʻalavelave pe a e le fetaui i tulaga o le olaga. O le isi uo e pisi i tamaiti, o le isi e alu i malaga faapisinisi. E mafai foʻi ona ese le tulaga faʻapitoa, o lenei mea e faʻatapulaʻaina ai taimi faʻatasi.

Be realistic and don’t expect the impossible from your friends and dates. Then it will be easier to find compromises — for example, to choose a less expensive type of leisure. Being aware of your limitations will help you avoid misunderstandings and conflicts: you turn down an invitation to dinner because your finances are tight, and your friend thinks you don’t want to see her. Your initiative will also be useful — offer ideas for meetings, but try to take into account the circumstances of your friends. They will appreciate your attention and care.

4. Sauni mo mea e ofo ai

E masani ona tatou mafaufau mo isi. Fai mai ua tatou iloa le auala e tali atu ai se uo i se tulaga faapitoa. Ae e masani ona sese o tatou manatu. O taumatematega e faalavelave i le foia o faafitauli ma tagata ese.

Let’s say a friend constantly talks about children, but you are not interested in talking about diapers and queues for kindergarten. You are worried — a friend will be upset if the conversation is moved to another topic. May be. But the opposite is also possible — she will be happy to discuss your recent vacation and forget about household chores for a minute. So do not try to decide for your friends, check your assumptions.

5. Aloese mai le Tauvaga

Mai lea taimi i lea taimi tatou te faatusatusa ai i tatou lava ma a tatou uo. Ae a eseese o tatou olaga, e faigata ona malamalama po o ai ua agai i luma. Afai e eseese mea e te faamuamua i le olaga, o le ai ai se vaega e te pauu ai i tua. O le lotoleaga o se lagona le fiafia, ae o se tali masani.

However, constant «competition» is not good for friendship and devalues ​​your achievements. Do not focus on what you are behind your friends in, and do not get carried away with self-criticism. Remember, everyone has ups and downs and you don’t know what the other person is going through.

6. Suia lau vaaiga

Now you are at different stages of life — try to take advantage of this situation. Use the experience of your girlfriends to make decisions in your life. Maybe you want to start living with a man, get married, accept a promotion at work, or have a baby. Look at a friend who already has it. This will help you evaluate future prospects and understand how ready you are for such changes.

7. Fai ni uo teine ​​fou

It makes sense that as our lives change, so do our friends. You try to weave old girlfriends into new life circumstances and keep friendships — that’s wonderful. But why not expand your social circle?

Fesoʻotaʻi ma tagata e sili atu ona vavalalata ia te oe e tusa ai ma mea e fiafia i ai ma tulaga: paaga faigaluega, tina talavou, fafine e leʻi faaipoipo. Faatasi ai ma i latou, e mafai ona e talanoaina mataupu e naʻo lou tulaga. O lenei mea o le a aveesea ai le mamafa o uo teine ​​tuai o loʻo feagai ma isi tulaga o le olaga.

E lē faigofie le tausia o se faigauo pe a ese lou olaga. Ae o le mafuaaga lena o le faauoga, lea, faafetai i le onosai ma le femalamalamaaʻi, e tumau mo le tele o tausaga, aemaise lava le taua.