"O faaipoipoga ua faia i le lagi": o le a lona uiga?

Saying the phrase «Marriages are made in heaven», we mean the fateful union of two people: a higher power brought a man and a woman together, blessed their union and will favor them in the future.

And therefore they will live together and cheerfully, give birth and raise many happy children, meet old age together among their beloved grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I also want to add that they will surely die on the same day. In general, such an idyllic picture of a happy family life appears. After all, we all want happiness, and permanent — from beginning to end.

And if there are any difficulties, then something went wrong? Or was it a mistake in the first place? Anyone who is realistic would like to know — is this really my partner in life?

O lea malamalama o le a maua ai galuega faiā i le olaga atoa, e tusa lava po o le a le mea e tupu. Ae e mafai ona e toʻa, ma le iloa o oulua uma o loʻo i luga o le ala saʻo. Tou te silafia, o nisi taimi ou te matau'a ai ia Atamu ma Eva: e le'i oo ia i laua le tiga o le filifiliga. E leai se isi "tagata talosaga", ma o le faʻaipoipo ma lau lava fanau, fanau a fanau ma fanau a fanau e le o ni manu!

Or maybe the lack of an alternative is even a good thing? And if there are only two of you, will you sooner or later fall in love with each other? How is this, for example, shown in the movie Passengers (2016)? And at the same time, in the movie «Lobster» (2015), some characters preferred to turn into animals or even die, so as not to be paired with the unloved! So everything here is also ambiguous.

O afea e faʻalogo ai lenei fuaitau i aso nei?

E tele mea ua tusia e uiga i le faaipoipoga i le Talalelei, ae ou te fia faamamafaina mea nei: “… o mea ua tuufaatasia e le Atua, aua ne’i tuueseeseina e se tagata.” ( Mataio 19:6 ), lea, i loʻu manatu, e mafai foʻi ona manatu i ai o le finagalo o le Atua e faatatau i faaipoipoga.

I aso nei o lenei faʻasalalauga e faʻaalia soo i ni tulaga se lua. Pe faia foi lenei mea e tagata malolosi lotu ina ia fefefe ma fefulifulisaʻi ai i taitoalua (e masani ona faaipoipo) o loo mafaufau e teteʻa. Pe e mana’omia fo’i o ia ina ia fa’amatu’u ese ai o ia mai le tiute tauave mo lana filifiliga: latou te fai mai, na ‘auina mai o ia ia te a’u mai lugā, a o lenei ua tatou mafatia, o loo tatou amoina lo tatou satauro.

I lo’u manatu, o le manatu lea o le faafeagai: talu ai o le faamanatuga o le faaipoipoga sa faia i le malumalu, o lona uiga o lenei faaipoipoga e mai le Atua. Ma o iinei e toatele e mafai ona tetee mai ia te au, ma tuuina mai le tele o faataitaiga o le faia o le faaipoipoga a nisi o ulugalii i le malumalu i nisi o taimi ma le le mafaufau, aloaia pe sa'o foi i le pepelo.

O le a ou tali atu i le mea lenei: e i luga o le lotofuatiaifo o le ulugalii, talu ai e le o i ai i patele se mana faapitoa e siaki ai le maualuga o le iloa ma le tiutetauave o i latou e mananao e faaipoipo.

Ma afai e i ai, o lona uiga o le toatele o i latou e mananao e mafai ona iloa e le agavaa ma le saunia, ma o se taunuuga o le a le faatagaina i latou e fausia se aiga e tusa ai ma tulafono a le ekalesia.

O ai na fai mai lena?

E tusa ai ma le Tusi Paia, o tagata muamua na foafoaina ma autasia e le Atua lava ia. Mai iinei, masalo, o le faʻamoemoe e afua mai o isi ulugalii uma foi e faia e aunoa ma Lona silafia, auai ma le maliega.

E tusa ai ma suʻesuʻega a le tusitala o Konstantin Dushenko¹, the first mention of this can be found in the Midrash — a Jewish interpretation of the Bible from the XNUMXth century, in its first part — the book of Genesis («Genesis Rabbah»).

The phrase occurs in a passage describing the meeting of Isaac and his wife Rebekah: «Couples are matched in Heaven», or in another translation: «There is no marriage of a man except by the will of Heaven.»

This statement in one form or another can be found in Holy Scripture. For example, in the 19th chapter of the Book of Proverbs of Solomon: «A house and an estate are an inheritance from parents, but a wise wife is from the Lord.»

And further in the Bible one can repeatedly find references to the marriages of the Old Testament patriarchs and heroes who were «from the Lord.»

O upu e uiga i le amataga faalelagi o faʻapotopotoga na faʻalogoina foi mai laugutu o toa o tusitusiga o le ogatotonu o le XNUMXth seneturi ma mulimuli ane maua ai faʻaauauga eseese ma faʻaiʻuga, e tele lava ina faʻalavelave ma masalosalo, mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga:

• “… ae latou te le popole ina ia latou manuia”;
• «… but this does not apply to forced marriages»;
• «… but heaven is not capable of such a terrible injustice»;
• «… but are performed on earth» or «… but are performed at the place of residence.»

O nei faʻaauau uma e tutusa le tasi ma le isi: latou te talanoa e uiga i le le fiafia i le manuia o le faaipoipoga, i le mea moni o le a mautinoa lava le fiafia o le a faʻatali mai ia i tatou i totonu. Ma o mea uma ona o tagata mai aso anamua na mananao ma mananao e faʻamautinoa o le a tupu le vavega o le fealofani. Ma latou te le malamalama pe le fia malamalama o lenei alofa e faia i se ulugalii, na faia e ona tagata auai i latou lava ...

Today, the skepticism with which people react to the phrase «Marriages are made in heaven» is due to divorce statistics: more than 50% of unions eventually break up. But even before, when many marriages were entered into under duress or unconsciously, by chance, there were just as few happy families as they are today. Divorce was simply not allowed.

Ma lona lua, e le malamalama tagata i le faamoemoega o le faaipoipoga. A uma mea uma, e le o se mea e le mautonu soofaatasi, ae o se misiona patino, muamua tatou te le iloa, lea e tatau ona faataunuuina e le ulugalii e tusa ai ma le fuafuaga a le Silisiliese. E pei ona latou fai mai: o ala o le Alii e le mafaamatalaina. Ae ui i lea, mulimuli ane o nei uiga e manino ia i latou e mananao e faauigaina.

Le faamoemoega o le faaipoipoga: o le a?

O filifiliga autu nei:

1) O le sini pito sili ona taua, i loʻu manatu, o le taimi e tuʻuina atu ai paaga le tasi i le isi mo le olaga pe mo sina taimi ina ia mafai ai. ia e nofouta atili ia te oe lava ma sui mo le lelei. E avea i tatou ma faiaoga o le tasi ma le isi pe, afai e te manaʻo ai, faʻataʻitaʻi paaga.

O se mea e faanoanoa ai ona o le tele o taimi o lenei auala soofaatasi e na o ni nai tausaga. Ona oʻo atu lea o se tasi poʻo paaga uma e lua i se tulaga fou o le atinaʻe ma le gaioiga ma, i le suia, e le mafai ona nonofo faʻatasi ma le filemu. Ma i ia tulaga, e sili atu le vave iloa o lenei mea ma taape filemu.

2) Le fanauina ma tausia se tagata tulaga ese pe mo tamaiti soofaatasi e iloa se mea taua. O lea na mananaʻo ai tagata Isaraelu anamua e fanau mai le Mesia.

Pe, e pei ona faʻaalia i le Life Itself (2018), e manaʻomia e matua ona "mafatia" ina ia mafai ai e a latou fanau ona feiloai ma alofa le tasi i le isi. Mo aʻu, o le manatu o lenei lipine: o le alofa moni o le tasi e seasea lava e mafai ona taʻua o se vavega, ma mo lenei mea, e mafai ona faʻavaivaia tupulaga ua mavae.

3) Mo lenei faaipoipoga e suia ai le ala o le talafaasolopito. O lea, mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga, o le faaipoipoga a le Princess Margarita o Valois ma Henry de Bourbon, le Tupu o Henry IV i le lumanaʻi, na maeʻa i le Po o Bartholomew i le 1572.

E mafai e se tasi ona taʻua lo tatou aiga tautupu mulimuli e fai ma faʻataʻitaʻiga. E matua le fiafia lava tagata i le Masiofo o Alexandra, ae maise lava na ita tagata i lona uiga ia Rasputin, e ui ina faamalosia, e ui lava ona o le maʻi o lana tama. O le faaipoipoga a Nicholas II ma Alexandra Feodorovna e mafai ona manatu moni lava e tulaga ese!

Ma e ala i le malosi o le alofa felagolagomai o ni tagata maoae se toalua, lea na faamatalaina e le Empress i lana api o talaaga i le 1917 (mulimuli ane, na lolomiina ana faamatalaga, ou te toe faitauina i lea taimi ma lea taimi ma fautuaina i latou uma), mulimuli ane lomia i lalo o le ulutala: " Aumai le alofa” (Ou te toe faitau i lea taimi ma lea taimi ma fautuaina i tagata uma).

Ma e tusa ai ma le taua mo le talafaasolopito o le atunuu ma le ekalesia (o le aiga atoa na canonized i le 2000 ma canonized o le au paia). O le faaipoipoga a Peter ma Fevronia, o lo tatou au paia Rusia, sa tauaveina le misiona lava e tasi. Na latou tuuina mai ia i matou se faataitaiga o se olaga faaipoipo lelei, alofa faa-Kerisiano ma le tuuto.

O le faaipoipoga e pei o se vavega

I see God’s role in creating families in that two suitable people meet. In Old Testament times, God sometimes did this directly — he announced to the spouse whom he should take as his wife.

Since then, we want to know for sure who our betrothed is and what is our purpose, having received the correct answer from above. Today, such stories also happen, it’s just that God «acts» less clearly.

Ae o nisi taimi tatou te le masalosalo o nisi tagata na iu i lenei nofoaga ma i le taimi nei na o le manaʻo o se vavega, e na o se mana maualuga atu e mafai ona ausia lenei mea. E faapefea ona tupu lenei mea? Sei ou tuuina atu ia te oe se faataitaiga mai le olaga o se uo.

Na siitia talu ai nei Elena i Moscow mai itumalo ma ni tamaiti se toalua, mautotogi se fale mautotogi ma lesitala i luga o se tafaoga tafaoga faamasani, se malo ma totogi, pe a uma ona faitau iloiloga i luga o le Initaneti. Ou te leʻi fuafuaina se mafutaga ogaoga i le isi lua tausaga: o lea, atonu e te masani i se tasi mo se tafaoga faʻatasi.

Alexey o se Muscovite, teteʻa i nai tausaga talu ai. O le fia maua o se uo teine ​​ina ua uma ona taumafai soo e feiloai tuusao, na filifili e lesitala i luga o le upega tafaʻilagi tutusa pe a uma ona faitau le iloiloga tutusa ma totogi mo le tausaga muamua.

I le ala, na te leʻi faʻamoemoe foi o le a vave ona ia feiloai i se ulugalii iinei: na ia manatu o le a ia faʻataʻitaʻi i fetusiaʻiga ma i se taimi seasea e tasi taimi fonotaga "e maua ai le malosi o le libidinal tamaitai" (o ia o se fomaʻi mafaufau, e te malamalama).

Na lesitala Alexey i le auaunaga i le leva o le afiafi, ma sa matua fiafia lava o ia i lenei faagasologa na ia tietie atu ai i lona nofoaga i luga o le nofoaafi ma faigata, i le leva o le vaeluapo, na taunuu i le fale. I ni nai itula mulimuli ane, i se isi vaega o le aai, o mea nei e tupu.

Elena, o le i lena taimi sa le manuia le fesootai ma tagata talosaga mo ni nai vaiaso, faafuasei ona ala i le 5 i le taeao, lea e lei tupu muamua ia te ia. Ma, e le o le mafaufau tele, galue i luga o se mea, na te suia faʻamatalaga o lona talaaga otooto ma suʻesuʻega faʻamau.

I le afiafi o le aso lava lea, na muamua tusi ai Elena ia Alexei (na te leʻi faia muamua lava), na ia tali vave mai, latou te amataina se fetusiaʻiga, vave ona latou valaʻau le tasi i le isi ma talanoa mo le sili atu ma le itula, iloa e le tasi le isi ...

O aso uma talu mai lena taimi, e tele itula o talanoa Elena ma Alexei, faʻafeiloaʻi le tasi i le isi i le taeao lelei ma le po, feiloai i Aso Lulu ma Aso Toonai. Ua maua uma e i laua lenei mea mo le taimi muamua … Ina ua mavae le 9 masina sa la o mai faatasi, ma e tasi lava le tausaga mulimuli ane, i le aso faamanatu o le la masani, sa la taaalo ai i se faaipoipoga.

I tulafono uma o le fisiki, sociology ma isi faasaienisi, e le tatau ona latou feiloai ma amata ona nonofo faatasi, ae na tupu! E taua le maitauina na lesitala uma i luga o le upega tafaʻilagi mo le taimi muamua, na ia faʻaaluina pe a ma se masina i luga, ma na ia faʻaaluina le aso. Aleksey, i le ala, na taumafai e toe faafoi le tupe na totogi mo le tausaga, ae leai se aoga.

And no one can prove to me that they met by chance, without the help of heaven! By the way, about a year before they met, as it turned out, there was another coincidence — they wandered on the same day through the halls of the same exhibition (she flew specially to Moscow), but then they were not destined to meet.

E le'i umi ae mavae atu lo la alofa, ae aveese tioata lanu rosa, ma vaai le tasi i le isi i lona mamalu uma, ma ona faaletonu uma. Ua oo mai le taimi mo le le fiafia… Ma o le galuega umi o le taliaina e le tasi o le isi, o le fatuina o le alofa ua amata. Sa tatau ona latou uia ma faia mea e tele mo lo latou fiafia.

Ou te fia aoteleina le poto o tagata: faalagolago i le Atua, ae aua e te faia se mea sese. Afai e te manaʻo e ola fiafia e faavavau, e tatau ona e galue malosi mo oe lava ma mafutaga. Aʻo leʻi faaipoipo ma i le faagasologa o le nonofo faʻatasi, ia tutoʻatasi uma (alu i se fomaʻi mafaufau) ma faʻatasi (auai i le aiga psychotherapy sauniga).

Ioe, e mafai e aunoa ma i tatou, psychologists, ae ia i tatou e sili atu le vave ma sili atu ona lelei. A uma mea uma, o se faaipoipoga fiafia e manaʻomia ai le matua, iloa, lagona, le mafai ona atagia ma feutagai, atinaʻe i tulaga eseese o uiga o paaga uma e lua: faaletino, mafaufau, lagona, socio-cultural and spiritual.

And most importantly — the ability to love! And this can also be learned by praying to God for the gift of Love.

¹ http://www.dushenko.ru/quotation_date/121235/