Pati o le Po o le Tausaga Fou: O se Taiala mo le Fa'asalaina mo Tagata Fa'atosina ma Tagata Fa'aola

O uiga i mea tetele e fa'atatau i le ituaiga o tagata. E faʻamalosia tagata faʻapitoa e i latou o loʻo siomia ai i latou, ma o le mafaufau i se aso malolo tumutumu e siitia ai o latou agaga. Introverts, i le isi itu, e toe malolo i le nofo toʻatasi ma o lea e taumafai ai e suʻe se alofaga e faʻaitiitia ai le i ai i totonu o se motu o tagata.

Auala e filifili ai mea e tutupu

E sili atu mo introverts le malilie i ofo uma, aua mo i latou o mea uma e tutupu o se punavai o le atuatuvale. Mai le sogasoga o olaga fa'aagafesootai, soifua maloloina ma fa'atinoga e mafai ona fa'aleagaina. Extroverts o le a talia valaaulia uma. Ae afai o mea na tutupu e fetaui lelei i le taimi, e tatau ona e tuʻuina atu le fiafia i pati o loʻo i ai se polokalama malosi, a leai e mafai ona e mauaina ni nai pauna faaopoopo.

O le a le mea e fai a o lei alu

Introverts get nervous long before they start, and the anxiety gets worse every day. In psychology, this state is called expectation anxiety. Effective ways to deal with it are meditation and exercise. Come up with a mantra that will make the upcoming event desirable. Instead of saying, «It’s going to be terrible,» say, «I’m waiting for him because Lisa will be there.»

E tatau ona 'ai tagata ese. Ia avea ma se mea mama ae faʻaloto, pei o se salati. E masani ona latou fai ma vaisu i fegalegaleaiga, siva ma tauvaga ma galo ai meaʻai.

Auala e amio ai i se pati

E tatau ona taula'i atu tagata fa'atosina i se galuega e tasi, e pei o le filifilia o mea'ai ma meainu. A e uuina se mea i ou lima, e te lagona le sili atu le toʻa. Su'e se tasi e te iloa e te fiafia i ai. E sili atu mo tagata faʻapitoa ona vave maua le talimalo poʻo le tagata e ona le fale ma faʻafetai mo le valaaulia, aua e mafai ona galo ia te oe, ma paʻu atu i le maelstrom o mea na tutupu.

E faapefea ona fesootai

For introverts, conversation can be a pain, so you need to prepare one or two strategies. One of the strategies is to find someone who, like you, came without a partner. Introverts prefer one-on-one communication, and, most likely, this loner will gladly support the conversation. Another way to deal with anxiety is to offer to help organize the party. The role of an assistant allows, firstly, to feel needed, and secondly, it gives rise to short conversations: “Can I offer you a glass of wine?” — «Thanks, with pleasure».

Extroverts e le tutu filemu, latou te lagonaina le olioli o le gaoioi ma le auai i le tele o talanoaga ma gaoioiga. Latou te fiafia e feiloai i tagata eseese ma faʻafeiloaʻi a latou masani i le tasi ma le isi. E latou te mautinoa o tagata fou e masani o se fiafiaga lea mo se tagata, ma latou te taumafai e faafiafia isi. E aoga lenei mea mo introverts e masani ona le mautonu e faʻalatalata atu i se tagata ese.

O afea e alu ese ai

E tatau i tagata fa'atosina ona toe fo'i i le fale i le taimi lava latou te lagona ai ua mou atu le malosi. Fa'atofa atu i lau paaga ma saili le talimalo e fa'afetai mo le talimalo. Extroverts e tatau ona siaki le taimi ina ia aua nei oʻo i se tulaga le lelei. Atonu latou te lagona le malosi i le lua i le taeao. Taumafai e aua le misia le taimi e amata ai ona taʻape le auvalaaulia, faʻafeiloaʻi i le au talimalo ma fai atu faafetai mo le taimi sili.

O le pati o le a manuia mo introverts ma extroverts pe afai latou te taumafai e amio e amanaia uiga o latou ituaiga tagata ma e le taumafai mo le atoatoa i mea uma: i lavalava, filifiliga o meaalofa ma fesootaiga.