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After-school: my child, his teacher and his friends
He does not like his mistress, has no friends, in short, the beginnings are difficult. A little patience and a few tips should help your child.
My child does not love his mistress
If he tells you he doesn’t like her, don’t shy away from the problem of “but she is very nice your mistress!” », That would not solve anything. Conversely, there is no question of abounding in its meaning. First of all, ask him about his reasons. Sometimes you will be surprised at her response: “Because she has red hair…”.
If he finds her “mean”, the most frequent case, know that this argument covers very different things, the mistress serving as a catalyst:
- At the beginning of the year, she puts in place rules of life, which sometimes go without adjustments. Tell your child that she has a busy schedule and that school is not kindergarten or daycare: he is there to learn and the role of the teacher is to help her get off to a good start;
- Your child may be naturally suspicious and needs time to get used to a new person;
- He hasn’t yet found his bearings in the school, and therefore cannot love the person who represents it.
If the problem persists, ask meet her in the presence of your child : this meeting will certainly help calm the situation and reassure you too. Also highlight other school staff, including ATSEM.
My child has a master instead of a mistress
In the collective unconscious, school is still a domain reserved for women. That is why children are always a little surprised to see a master in their class. This explains that, they are often proud of it, because they see the exception well! Male teachers have very good contacts with the little ones : boys see him as a model and girls will want to marry him! Also explain to your child that many trades are performed equally well by men or women.
My child has two part-time teachers
Here again, this situation worries parents more than children, who easily adapt to change. For some children, having two teachers offers advantages: very structured learning, references in time more quickly assimilated (the teacher on Monday and Tuesday, the other on Thursday and Friday *) and the certainty of getting along well with at least one of the two. If your child is having trouble navigating it, you can create a weekly calendar at home with photos of the two teachers.
My child has no friends at the start of the school year
At 3 years old, we are often egocentric and, in the small section, the pupils often play alone. It takes time for some, except those who were already in nursery together and end up in school. In general, no one is left alone for more than a month and all end up making friends. And the new ones like the others: when they arrive in the middle of the year in an already formed class, they are an attraction for the others!
My child is attacked by others
In the yard, it may happen that children are victims of the brutality of other students when the adults have their backs turned. If yours tells you, you must intervene very quickly and make an appointment with the teacher. Your child should feel listened to and protected and see that you take this situation very seriously. If he is afraid of reprisals, tell him that you will ask the master to remain in the secret but that, being warned, he will be more vigilant towards him. Also tell them to stay away from their abusers and get closer to other comrades.