O le uo mafaufau e masani ona aliali mai i le 3/4 tausaga o le tamaititi ma avea ma mea uma i lona olaga i aso taitasi. E mou atu e pei ona fanau mai ma e ioe tagata su'esu'e o le mafaufau o se tulaga "masani" i le atina'eina o le mafaufau o le tamaitiiti.
Ia iloa O le malosi ma le umi o le mafutaga ma le uo mafaufau e matua eseese lava mai lea tamaitiiti i lea tamaitiiti. E tusa ai ma fuainumera, e tasi i le tolu tamaiti o le a le oʻo i lenei ituaiga o vaʻaiga mafaufau. I le tele o tulaga, o le uo mafaufau e faasolosolo malie lava ona mou atu, e fai ai se auala mo uo moni, pe a amata ona auai le tamaititi i le aʻoga. |
Who is he really?
Imagination, delirium, mystical presence, adults find it difficult to remain rational in the face of this disconcerting episode. Adults do not necessarily have direct access to this “imaginary friend”, hence their concern in the face of this surprising and often confusing relationship. And the child says nothing, or little.
Thanks to it, your child can at leisure replace moments of frustration with invented moments, a mirror in a way, on which their identifications, expectations and fears will be expressed. He speaks to him aloud or in a whisper, reassures himself that he can share his emotions with him.
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A mother in the forums of the dejagrand.com site:
“… My son had an imaginary friend when he was 4 years old, he spoke to him, walked him everywhere, he had become almost a new member of the family !! At that time my boy was an only child, and living in the countryside he did not have, except at school, no boyfriend to play. I think he had a certain lack, because from the day we went on a camping vacation, where he found himself with other children, his boyfriend disappeared and when we got home he got to know her. a little neighbor and there we never heard from his imaginary friend again…. “
Another mother testifies in the same direction:
“… An imaginary friend is not something to worry about in itself, many children have them, rather it shows a developed imagination. The fact that she suddenly no longer wants to play with other children seems more worrying, this imaginary friend must not take up all the space. Trying to talk about it with her, doesn’t that friend you don’t see yourself also want to play with other children? Pay attention to his answers… ”
Normal for professionals
E tusa ai ma i latou, o se "tagata e lua", e mafai ai e tamaiti laiti ona faʻaalia o latou manaʻoga ma popolega. O loʻo talanoa tagata suʻesuʻe o le mafaufau e uiga i "se galuega i le atinaʻeina o mafaufau o le tamaititi".
O lea aua e te popole, e manaʻomia e lau tama laʻitiiti sana lava uo, ma ia mafai ona faʻaaogaina o ia pe a ia manatu e talafeagai.
O le mea moni, o lenei uo mafaufau e aliali mai i se laasaga o le tuputupu ae pe a maua e le tamaititi se olaga faʻaʻoa ma manuia. E tele vaaiga ma tala fou.
O le foafoaina o lenei lalolagi i totonu o loʻo i ai se galuega faʻamautinoaga ioe, ae mafai foi ona avea ma se tali i popolega poʻo se mea moni e le malie tele e pei o lena.
I lalo o le mataituina pea
O se tamaititi o loʻo tiga, naʻo naʻo ia i le va fealoai poʻo le lagona ua le aofia ai, atonu e tatau ona fatuina se tasi pe sili atu uo faʻatusa. Ua ia te ia le pule atoatoa i nei uo faafoliga, e mou ese atu pe toe aliali mai i le loto.
O le a ia faailoa atu iā i latou ona popolega, o ona popolega ma ana mea lilo. E leai se mea e matua fa'apopoleina ai, ae ia mataala pea!
Afai o se tamaititi ua alu ese i totonu o le tulaga faʻapitoa o lenei mafutaga, e mafai ona avea ma pathological pe afai e tumau i le taimi ma faʻalavelaveina o ia i isi ana avanoa e faauo ai. Ona tatau lea ona fa'afeso'ota'i se foma'i fa'apitoa mo tamaiti laiti e fa'ailoa le mea o lo'o ta'alo i tua o lenei fa'asologa o se popolega i le mea moni.
Faia se tali lelei
Ta'u ia te oe lava e le tatau ona e popole tele i lenei mea, ma o se auala mo lau tama e maua ai se lagona lelei i lenei taimi tulaga ese o loo ia oo i ai.
Ia faafaigofie, e aunoa ma le le amanaiaina pe viia a latou amioga. E taua le sailia o le mamao sa'o, e ala i le tilotilo i ai.
O le mea moni, o le tuʻuina atu o ia e talanoa e uiga i lenei "uo" o le tuʻuina atu lea o ia e talanoa e uiga ia te ia lava, ma e mafai ona aoga le iloa atili e uiga i ona lagona natia, e uiga i ona lagona, i se faapuupuuga, o lona vavalalata.
O le mea lea o le taua o le iloa pe faʻafefea ona faapaleni lou fiafia i lenei lalolagi faʻapitoa, e aunoa ma le faʻalavelave tele.
I le va o mea moni ma mea faitino
I le isi itu, e le tatau ona tatou oʻo i se taʻaloga faʻavalevalea e faʻapea e le o toe iai le tapulaʻa i le va o le moni poʻo le sese. O tamaiti o lenei vaitausaga e manaʻomia ni faʻailoga mautu ma ia malamalama e ala i tagata matutua le mea moni.
O le mea lea e taua ai le aua le tautala saʻo i le uo o loʻo fesiligia. E mafai foʻi ona e taʻu atu ia te ia e te le o vaʻai i lenei uo ma o lona manaʻo ia maua se avanoa patino, o se "uo", e talitonu ai o ia o loʻo i ai.
E le mana'omia ona finau pe fa'asa lau tama ona o lo'o ia lagolagoina lona ola. Faamanatu ia te ia o loʻo ia faia lenei mea sese ma o le a le toe manaʻomia se taimi. E masani lava, e vave mou atu le uo vaʻaia pe a taunuu.
I le faaiuga, o se fuaitau masani, (ae le o se mea e tatau ai), e mafai ona sili atu le lelei mo le tamaititi pe a tumau i le taimi ma e le o le faʻaesea.
O nei uo pseudo o uiga patino ia o se olaga mauoa i totonu ma e ui lava e leai ni uo faʻapitoa a tagata matutua, latou te fiafia lava i nisi taimi e fai a latou togalaau faalilolilo, e pei o tamaiti laiti.
To consult:
O ata tifaga
“Kelly-Anne’s Secret”, 2006 (children’s film)
“Trouble jeu” 2005 (adult film)
“Sixth Sense” 2000 (adult film)
tusi
“The child among the others, to build oneself in the social bond”
Milan, A. Beaumatin and C. Laterrasse
“” Talk to your children ”
Odile Jacob, Dr Antoine Alaméda