"E tetee loʻu aiga ia te aʻu le tausia o aʻu lava"

Ina ia feiloaʻi ma uō, alu i se vasega siva, pe na o le alu i fafo na o oe, pe manaʻomia ea ona e suʻe se māfuaaga lelei, po o le onosaia o foliga faanoanoa e te manaʻo e nofo i le fale? “Latou te mananaʻo i o latou taimi avanoa uma e faatasi ai ma aʻu,” e foliga mai, o le a se mea e sili atu? E manaʻomia oe e tagata e te alofa i ai! Ae e manaomia e i tatou taitoatasi se avanoa patino ma sina taimi mo i tatou lava.

Ou te aʻoaʻoina faiga Taoist a fafine. O lo'o tulimata'i nei teine ​​i semina fou. Ae o le tele o taimi i le fale latou te tali atu ai ma le le fiafia i la latou mea e fiafia i ai: “e sili pe a e nofo faatasi ma i matou …” E faigata ona fai se filifiliga: i le tasi itu, o gaoioiga manaia, i le isi, o se aiga e manaʻomia oe. I began to look for the cause of this imbalance: for classes, you need only 2-3 hours in the evening. The rest of the day the mother is at home (but they miss and do not let even those who spend the whole day in the family), tomorrow — also with you. And the day after tomorrow. Empirically, we found the «root of evil.» The situation in which the whole family is so zealous about maternal affairs signals that the family misses her. They lack her attention, tenderness, energy.

O le a ou taʻuina atu ia te oe mafuaʻaga o lenei faʻafitauli malosi ma le auala e faʻaumatia ai. Mata o lou tulaga foi lea?

Mafuaaga o le faaletonu o le malosi

Le lava le malosi

We all live in a state of «energy crisis»: food quality, ecology, lack of sleep, not to mention stress. During the holidays, when strength arrives, we want to play with the child, and the relationship with the husband becomes brighter. If there is no strength, then no matter How long time a woman spends with her family, she will not be enough for them — because she is not able to share warmth and joy. And the family will wait and ask: give the one with which it is interesting. And mothers, in order to gain strength, should go for a massage or do yoga — but you can’t, because the family does not let you. Vicious circle!

le gauai atoatoa

This is the second common cause, which is largely related to the first. A child (and a husband) needs quality time together — it is characterized by undivided, bright, interested attention that you give to him.

I nisi o aiga, o le tulaga o loʻo faʻapea: o le malosi uma e faʻaalu i le kuka, savali (o le tamaititi o loʻo savali, tina e foia mea i luga o le telefoni), faʻamamā, o le taimi e tasi e siaki ai lesona ma matamata meli. Ua vaevaeina le gauai i ni galuega i le taimi e tasi: e foliga mai o le tina ma le tamaititi e faʻaalu le aso atoa, ae o loʻo pisi uma i lana lava pisinisi, ma e leai se fesoʻotaʻiga atoatoa. Ma afai o se tamaititi ua le maua le tausiga o lona tina i le aso atoa, ma i le afiafi ua aveesea le mea mulimuli mai ia te ia, o loʻo i ai le mafuaaga e le fiafia ai: na ia faʻamoemoe e faʻaalu se taimi ma ia.

O lenei tulaga e fesoʻotaʻi ma le muamua: o loʻo faʻasalalau le gauai i luga o le tele o mea (e tatau ona faia aʻo iai le taimi) faʻasaga i tua o le tutusa atoa le leai o se malosi. Fa'aopoopo i ai lo matou fa'alagolago i telefonipoto.

Le tali

O le a le mea e fai ina ia fiafia le aiga e faʻatagaina i matou e o i afiafi / aoauli / taeao ma fiafia e feiloai pe a uma taʻaloga poʻo le feiloai i uo?

Faitau au mānava; lemu ae mautinoa le taulai atu i mea taitasi e tafe i lalo o lou alofilima. Amata faataitai mai le tolu minute: ae e te lei nofo i lalo, seti le faailo mo le 3 minute and as soon as he gives the signal, stop. Even if you want to continue. Leave this «hunger» for tomorrow, because the secret of successful meditation is not in its duration, but in regularity. After a week, you can increase the duration by 1 minute. Then — one more.

E tusa ai ma suʻesuʻega faʻasaienisi lata mai, e toe faʻafouina le faiʻai, maua le malosi faaopoopo ma paleni lagona, e tatau ona e mafaufau loloto mo le 12 minute i le aso. Amata i le tolu ma galue agai i luga i lena numera.

2. Ia tuuto atu au faiga masani i le aiga

There is one catch: if our relatives miss us, then daily meditation can also become a stumbling block. So when you sit down to meditate or go to a sport or start a new business, say to yourself: I am doing this to get energy to share with my loved ones. Thus, we dedicate our studies to them. And — I don’t know how or why — but it works! Of course, loved ones will not know what we say to ourselves — but at some level this dedication is felt. And believe me, it will become easier for you to allocate personal time.