We live in an era of achievement — the Internet and glossy talk about how to set goals, overcome difficulties and conquer new heights of success. At the same time, one of the key stages on the way to a better life is considered to be getting out of the comfort zone. But is it true that we are all in it? And is it really necessary to leave it?
O ai e le'i tete'e i se isi valaau e alu ese mai lo latou sone mafanafana? O iina, i tua atu o ona tuaoi, o loʻo faʻatali mai le manuia ia i tatou, faʻamautinoa e faiaoga ma faʻamatalaga pisinisi. E ala i le faia o se mea e le masani ai ma e oo lava i le atuatuvale, tatou te atiina ae ma maua ai tomai fou ma poto masani. Ae ui i lea, e le o tagata uma e manaʻo e i ai i se tulaga o le atinaʻe faifaipea, ma o se mea masani lea.
Afai o le pao ma le fesuiaiga o tuinanau ma taimi toʻafilemu i lou olaga e faʻalelei mo oe ma e te le manaʻo i ni suiga, o le fautuaga a isi tagata e sui se mea, "lulu i luga" ma "avea ma se tagata fou" e le gata i lea. E le gata i lea, e masani ona galo i le au faaosofia ma faufautua o le sone mafanafana o tagata uma e eseese ma o le auala e alu ese ai e faalagolago i le uiga o le tagata. Ma o le mea moni, i luga o lona tetee atu i le popole.
Mo se faʻataʻitaʻiga, mo se tasi o se laasaga tele i le faʻatoʻilaloina o ia lava o le faia lea i luga o le tulaga i luma o le potu atoa o le au faʻalogologo, ma mo se isi tagata, o le mea moni lava o le liliu atu i se tagata savali i luga o le auala mo se fesoasoani. Afai e tasi le "gaioiga" o loʻo alu mo se tamoʻe latalata i le fale, ona mo le lona lua o le auai i se malafoni. O le mea lea, o le mataupu faavae o le "naʻo le mauaina ma fai" e aoga mo tagata uma i auala eseese.
E lua fesili ia te au lava ia
Afai o loʻo e mafaufau pea e alu ese mai lau sone mafanafana, e tatau ona e siaki pe e te manaʻomia moni se suiga.
Ina ia faia lenei mea, tali fesili autu:
- Pe o le taimi tonu lea? Of course, it is impossible to be XNUMX% ready for something new. But you can try to “lay straws” and make it easier to get out of your comfort zone — because if you are completely unprepared for the intended step, then the probability of failure is high.
- E te manaʻomia? Taumafai se mea fou pe a e mana'o moni iai. Ma e le o le taimi e tuleia ai oe e uo, ae le ona o au uo uma ua uma ona faia pe fautuaina e se blogger lauiloa. Afai o gagana ese e faigata ia te oe ma e le manaʻomia mo galuega ma le olaga lautele, e le tatau ona e faʻaumatia lou malosi, neura, taimi ma tupe i le aʻoaʻoina.
Just be careful not to cheat and say «I don’t need this» about something that just seems difficult. For example, you are not sure that you are ready to go to a friend’s party, where there will be a lot of strangers. What keeps you from acting outside your comfort zone: fear or disinterest?
Su'e le tali e fa'aaoga ai le auala e tape ai: fa'apea o lo'o iai sau titina fa'amaneta e mafai ona tape ai lou popole. O le a le mea e tupu pe a e faʻaaogaina? E foliga mai, o le aveesea faalemafaufau o le fefe, o le ae iloa ai o loʻo e manaʻo pea e faʻataunuʻuina lau fuafuaga.
O fea tatou te o ese ai?
When we leave our comfort zone, we find ourselves in another place — and this is definitely not a «place where miracles happen.» This, perhaps, is a common mistake: people think that it’s enough just to “go out” somewhere, and everything will work out. But outside the comfort zone are two other areas that are opposite to each other: the stretch (or growth) zone and the panic zone.
Sone fa'aloloto
O le mea lea e pule ai le tulaga sili ona lelei o le faʻalavelave: matou te oʻo i se popolega, ae mafai ona matou faʻaogaina e avea ma faʻaosofia ma maua ai le suauu mo le gaosiga. I lenei sone, tatou te maua ai avanoa e le masani ai, ma latou taʻitaʻia ai i tatou i le tuputupu ae patino ma le faʻaleleia atili o le tagata lava ia.
O loʻo iai foʻi se isi manatu na faʻalauiloaina e le fomaʻi o le mafaufau Lev Vygotsky mo le aʻoaʻoina o tamaiti: le sone o le atinaʻe vavalalata. O lona uiga o fafo atu o le sone mafanafana, tatou te faia na o le mea e mafai ona tatou faia i le upega saogalemu o se tagata e sili atu le poto masani seia oʻo ina tatou iloa le gaioiga e i tatou lava. Faʻafetai i lenei taʻiala, matou te aʻoaʻoina mea fou e aunoa ma se faʻalavelave, aua le faʻaumatia le naunau e aʻoaʻo, vaʻai i lo matou alualu i luma ma lagona atili le mautinoa.
sone popolevale
What will happen if we throw ourselves out of the comfort zone without sufficient resources — internal or external? We will find ourselves in a zone where the level of anxiety exceeds our ability to cope with it.
O se faʻataʻitaʻiga masani o le manaʻo faʻafuaseʻi e matua suia ma amata se olaga fou iinei ma le taimi nei. Tatou te soona manatu mamafa i o tatou tomai ma e le mafai ona toe pulea le tulaga, ma o lea ua tatou le fiafia ai ma lagona le lofituina. O sea fuafuaga e le taitai atu ai i le tuputupu aʻe o le tagata lava ia, ae o le solomuli.
O le mea lea, ina ia aloese mai le faʻalavelave le manaʻomia, aʻo leʻi faia se mea fou ma atypical mo i matou, e tatau ona e faʻalogo lelei ia te oe lava ma iloilo pe ua oʻo mai le taimi mo lenei mea.